How to Understand the Non-Believer

Helping the non-believer
Balloons for Hailey

Understanding a non-believer is such a crucial thing that I believe gets overlooked far too often. To help a non-believer, we must first listen to them. Understand where their faith is and is not. Try to look at them with Gods view of them.

The majority of the time you will find they are hurt individuals with either something wrong done to them or something they witnessed being so bad, that God doesn’t make sense to them. The biggest part about helping people understand who God is, is to be there for them. God is love and He created us to be like Him.



John 3:16-17 says “For God loved the world so much that He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through him.”

God gave up His only son to demonstrate just how much He loves us. Would you give up one of your kids to save someone who doesn’t believe in you? Highly unlikely. I know I couldn’t. Not even the bad one. Just kidding, my kids are all wonderful.

The biggest question we may get from the non-believer is why does God let bad things happen to good or innocent people? This one is a delicate subject, but here we go.



When my wife and I were trying to have our first child together, we prayed and God answered our prayers. He blessed us with my beautiful baby girl, Hailey Lynne. The thing was, Hailey came just a little bit earlier than was expected, so we were blessed with her presence for only 177 minutes before God needed her home.

Ask anyone that knows us and the most would say Jill and I are good people and didn’t deserve our daughter to be taken from us. Although, I don’t believe she was taken from us without reason. I don’t know what her life would have been like here on Earth, but I know she would of had to deal with the pains of this world. Her first heart break, sorrow, guilt, shame, discipline, struggles, etc. The list goes on and on about how rough this world can be and for whatever reason God had, He took her straight to heaven so she wouldn’t have to deal with it.

She was only here for a short time but it was filled with love. In the womb we talked to her for weeks. When she was delivered she was drowned in kisses and a room full of loved ones. Now, she is in heaven where she will live in perfectness and peace for all eternity. She is where I will be someday.

To the non-believer, a young couple losing their first child together would be a tragic thing. But to us as believers, we know she is safe and sound. God loves us so much. He doesn’t guarantee us a life without troubles. If everything were “perfect” we wouldn’t be able to appreciate the good stuff He has for us in the future.



I pray this helps those who need words to help the non-believers. Please leave feedback in the comments below or questions about other issues you may need addressed.

Thank you and God bless y’all!





2 Replies to “How to Understand the Non-Believer”

  1. I pray for the non believers to one day see the sacrifice our Lord has made and continues to make for us and embrace His love.
    I miss my first lil princess and angel baby…Hailey Lynne.. Nani ❤s you.
    Blessings to all y’all!

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